Sonia Garcia

Days go by without a real conversation. Invitations stopped coming, or you stopped saying yes. At first it felt like rest. Now it feels like a wall. If you've been wondering what isolation is doing to you, or to someone you love, the research has a fairly clear answer: the negative effects of social isolation reach mood, the heart, sleep, and memory, and they build over time.

The good news is that connection works in both directions. The same research that shows the harm also suggests that rebuilding contact, even in small steps, matters.

What is social isolation?

The CDC defines social isolation as not having relationships, contact with, or support from others. It's something you can count: how often you talk to people, whether anyone would help in a crisis, whether you're part of any group.

Loneliness is different. It's the feeling of being alone or disconnected, the gap between the connection you have and the connection you want. You can be isolated without feeling lonely, and you can feel lonely in a room full of friends. The two often feed each other, and both carry health risks.

They're also common. According to the CDC, about 1 in 3 U.S. adults report feeling lonely, and about 1 in 4 report not having social and emotional support.

Who is most at risk?

The CDC lists several factors that raise the risk of isolation and loneliness, including:

• A chronic physical illness, disability, or a psychiatric or depressive condition
• Divorce, unemployment, or the loss of a loved one
• Living in a rural area, limited transportation, or language barriers
• Being a victim of violence or abuse
• Older age, living alone, low income, and being a young adult

Mental health conditions sit on both sides of the equation. Depression, anxiety, and psychosis can make people pull away, and isolation can make those conditions worse.

What does isolation do to a person mentally?

Depression

In a 2017 population-based study in PLOS ONE of 1,919 adults in Singapore, weak connections with relatives and friends, and loneliness, were both associated with more depressive symptoms, even after accounting for age, gender, employment, and other factors. Loneliness had the strongest association. The study was cross-sectional, so it shows a link rather than proving which came first, but the pattern matches what the CDC reports: isolation and loneliness raise the risk of depression and anxiety.

Suicidality and self-harm

The CDC also lists suicidality and self-harm among the health risks of isolation and loneliness. If you or someone you know is having thoughts of suicide, call or text 988, the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline. Reaching out is a form of connection too.

Withdrawal as an early warning sign

Sometimes isolation is a symptom rather than a cause. The NIMH lists withdrawing socially and spending much more time alone among the warning signs that can appear before a first episode of psychosis. Pulling away from people can also be a sign of depression, something we describe in what severe depression feels like. A sudden or growing withdrawal, especially in a teen or young adult, deserves attention. With psychosis, early care makes a difference. Read more about how we treat psychosis.

Effects of social isolation on the body

Heart disease and stroke

A 2022 scientific statement from the American Heart Association reviewed the research on isolation and cardiovascular health. It cited a meta-analysis in which social isolation or loneliness was linked to a 29% higher risk of coronary heart disease and a 32% higher risk of stroke. The authors also noted that the effect estimates are small and that unmeasured factors may play a role.

Stress hormones and inflammation

Isolation shows up in the body's stress systems. In a 2021 study in Psychoneuroendocrinology of 314 adults from the Midlife in the United States (MIDUS) study, living alone was associated with a flatter daily cortisol rhythm and higher C-reactive protein, a marker of inflammation. Loneliness was separately associated with higher levels of another inflammatory marker, IL-6.

A larger 2025 study in Nature Human Behaviour of 42,062 UK Biobank participants identified blood proteins linked to isolation and loneliness. Many were involved in inflammation and immune responses, and more than half were linked to later heart disease, type 2 diabetes, stroke, and death.

Earlier death

A 2015 meta-analysis in Perspectives on Psychological Science found that social isolation was associated with a 29% higher likelihood of death, loneliness with 26%, and living alone with 32%, after controlling for other factors. The authors concluded the risk is comparable to other well-established risk factors for mortality.

Effects on memory and the brain

In the English Longitudinal Study of Ageing, researchers followed 11,233 adults aged 50 and older over six assessments, two years apart. Isolation was associated with faster memory decline, particularly in men who were highly isolated at the start and in women whose isolation grew over time. The analysis suggested isolation contributed to memory decline, rather than poor memory causing isolation.

Dementia risk follows a similar pattern. In a nine-year U.S. study of 5,022 older adults published in the Journal of the American Geriatrics Society, being socially isolated was associated with a 28% higher risk of developing dementia, with no significant difference by race or ethnicity.

Signs that isolation is taking a toll

• Going days without a meaningful conversation
• Declining invitations or avoiding calls and messages
• Losing interest in activities you used to enjoy
• Sleep changes, low energy, or changes in appetite
• Persistent sadness, irritability, or feeling numb
• Neglecting self-care or your home
• Feeling like no one would notice if you disappeared

The last one is important. Feeling invisible or like a burden is a warning sign, and it's a reason to reach out today, or to call or text 988.

Can the effects of social isolation be reversed?

Much of the research is observational, so it shows risk rather than a guaranteed path back. But the ageing study found the strongest memory effects in people whose isolation was high or growing, which suggests the pattern over time matters. Reconnecting helps at any point, and the earlier the better.

Practical steps that help people rebuild contact include:

• Start small. One text, one short call, one coffee. Consistency matters more than size.
• Schedule it. Put regular check-ins with a friend or family member on the calendar.
• Join something structured. A class, volunteer role, faith community, or interest group gives you a reason to show up.
• Mix in-person and digital. Video calls help, but protect some in-person time too.
• Lower the bar. You don't need a deep conversation. Being around people counts.

If depression, anxiety, or another condition is what's keeping you isolated, treating it often makes reconnection possible in a way willpower alone doesn't.

When to get professional help

Talk to a mental health professional if isolation comes with persistent low mood, intense anxiety, loss of interest, neglect of basic self-care, or hopelessness that lasts for weeks. Get help sooner if someone is withdrawing alongside confused thinking, unusual beliefs, or hearing or seeing things others don't.

At Amae Health, our clinics specialize in conditions including Major Depressive Disorder, bipolar disorder, schizophrenia, and first-episode psychosis, where withdrawal is often part of the picture. Our care teams include psychiatrists, therapists, primary care physicians, care coordinators, and peer mentors who help with counseling and life skills. Group therapy is part of care too. For more on levels of care, see inpatient vs. outpatient mental health treatment. If reaching out feels hard, our guide on how to ask for help when depressed may help.

Frequently asked questions

What is the difference between social isolation and loneliness?

Social isolation is an objective lack of relationships, contact, or support. Loneliness is the subjective feeling of being alone or disconnected. You can have one without the other, and both are linked to health risks.

What does social isolation do to a person?

Research links isolation to more depressive symptoms, higher risk of heart disease and stroke, changes in stress hormones and inflammation, faster memory decline, higher dementia risk, and earlier death. Most of these findings are associations, and the risks build over time.

Why is isolation bad for your mental health?

Isolation removes support, routine, and the everyday contact that helps regulate mood. The CDC lists depression, anxiety, and suicidality among its health risks. Isolation can also be a symptom of depression or psychosis, which makes it a signal to notice.

How can I tell if someone is isolating because of a mental health condition?

Watch for withdrawal that's new or growing, combined with changes like low mood, poor self-care, confused thinking, or unusual beliefs. Ask directly and kindly how they're doing, and encourage an evaluation if the changes persist.

Key takeaways

• Social isolation is a lack of contact and support. Loneliness is the feeling of disconnection. Both carry health risks.
• Research links isolation to depression, heart disease and stroke, inflammation, memory decline, dementia, and earlier death.
• Withdrawal can also be an early sign of depression or psychosis.
• Small, regular steps toward connection help, and treating an underlying condition can make reconnecting possible.

If isolation is part of a bigger pattern of depression, mood swings, or changes in thinking, for you or someone you love, request an intake appointment. Our team will explain how an evaluation works and what the first visit involves.

Weighing telepsychiatry vs in-person care means holding two findings at once. Across many mental health conditions, video psychiatry performs about as well as sitting in the same room. For severe mental illness (SMI) such as schizophrenia and bipolar disorder, the trials simply have not been run, and parts of this care (injections, blood tests, physical checks, and crisis assessment) cannot travel through a screen at all. So the real question is rarely either-or. It is which parts of care can safely go virtual, which parts cannot, and who should be making that call as your stability changes over time. Here's what the research shows, and where the practical limits fall.

What Telepsychiatry Is and What In-Person Care Means

Telepsychiatry is psychiatric care delivered by video or phone: evaluations, medication visits, and therapy sessions held from wherever the patient is. In-person care means visits at a clinic, with the clinician and everything a clinic contains (labs, injections, vitals, a team down the hall) physically present. Between them sits hybrid care, a deliberate mix of both formats, which is how a great deal of psychiatric care in the United States now actually runs. The terms matter less than what each format can physically deliver, which is where the comparison gets concrete.

What the Research Shows

The broadest comparison to date is a 2023 meta-analysis in the British Journal of Psychiatry covering 32 randomized trials and 3,592 participants across 11 conditions (Hagi et al., 2023). Pooled together, there was no significant overall difference in symptom improvement between telepsychiatry and face-to-face treatment. By condition, telepsychiatry did better for depressive disorders, across 6 trials, and face-to-face did better for eating disorders, on the strength of a single trial. Dropout findings split the same way, each direction supported by one small study. Several of the condition-level results rest on a single trial, which makes them fragile rather than final, and the authors note as much.

That finding cuts in both directions. Video care is not a watered-down version of psychiatry; for depression in particular it holds up well, and dismissing it would misread the data. At the same time, a pooled average across 11 conditions says nothing about the conditions that never made it into the trials, and the trials skew toward the diagnoses that are easiest to study remotely.

What We Know, and Do Not Yet Know, About SMI

Schizophrenia and bipolar disorder are largely missing from this evidence. A 2022 systematic review in JMIR Mental Health went looking for randomized trials of telehealth psychotherapy and found 12 trials with 931 patients, none of which studied schizophrenia or bipolar disorder, leading the authors to call for high-quality research before treating telehealth as equivalent for these conditions (Greenwood et al., 2022). The Hagi meta-analysis likewise names neither condition among its findings. Narrative reviews describe telehealth with psychosis as feasible and acceptable, and feasibility is a different claim than tested equivalence.

The absence of strong trials is not proof that telepsychiatry harms people with severe mental illness, and it is not proof of equivalence either. For conditions this serious, that gap counsels care in what gets moved online, and it puts the burden on care models to show their format choices serve the patient rather than the schedule.

What Needs to Happen In Person

Some components of SMI treatment are physical, and no quality of webcam changes that:

• Long-acting injectable antipsychotics are administered by a clinician, on a schedule, in person. For many people they are the backbone of stability.
• Blood monitoring comes with several core SMI medications: lithium levels, the regular blood counts recommended with clozapine, and metabolic monitoring for people on antipsychotics, per each medication's prescribing requirements. These need a clinic or a lab, not a login.
• Physical exams and vitals catch the medical problems that psychiatric medications can cause and that psychiatric illness so often hides from everyone, including the patient.
• Interventional treatments such as TMS and Spravato are delivered in clinic under supervision, by design.
• Crisis assessment is a hands-on clinical skill. Judging safety through a screen, with a person who may not want to be seen clearly and can end the call at will, is a genuinely harder task than assessing someone in the room.

For severe mental illness, these are routine, recurring parts of treatment rather than rare events, which is why fully remote care for this population runs into walls that have nothing to do with anyone's opinion of telehealth. A care plan that includes an injectable every four weeks and quarterly labs has an in-person spine no matter how the conversations happen.

Where Telepsychiatry Fits Well

Video visits earn their place in several situations: stable follow-ups and medication check-ins once a plan is working, access for people who live far from psychiatric care or cannot travel easily, and flexibility for family members joining a session from different places. For a routine fifteen-minute medication review in a stable month, driving an hour each way serves nobody.

Those are real advantages, and they come with real conditions. A video visit requires privacy at home, which not every household offers, a reliable connection, and the ability to engage through a screen, each of which gets harder exactly when symptoms are most active. Paranoia can make a camera feel threatening; depression can make logging in feel impossible. The format works best for the stable stretches of an illness that does not always stay stable.

Hybrid Care and Level of Need

The workable frame is level of need rather than loyalty to a format. Someone newly stabilized after a hospitalization needs more in-person contact: labs, physical checks, possibly injections, a team reading them closely. Someone two stable years into treatment may handle routine visits by video and come in for bloodwork and periodic full evaluations. A rough month might mean temporarily moving visits back on site.

The mix should shift as stability shifts, in both directions, and the people best positioned to adjust it are a care team who knows the whole picture, the same logic that separates outpatient from inpatient levels of care.

Why a Coordinated, In-Person Team Matters for SMI

Severe mental illness is a whole-body, whole-life illness, and people living with it face higher rates of serious physical illness, so treating it takes more than a sequence of appointments in any format. At Amae Health, one team (psychiatrists, therapists, and primary care physicians, along with peer mentors, care coordinators, dietitians, and health coaches) works from a shared plan in one place, so the injection, the lab draw, the therapy session, and the medical follow-up belong to one plan rather than four calendars. That is the part of care a screen cannot substitute for: not the conversation, which video carries fine, but the coordination and the physical medicine around it. It is the model behind our psychosis care and bipolar disorder treatment, and our full care model shows how the pieces fit.

Talking to Our Care Team About the Right Format

The right format is a clinical question with a moving answer: it depends on your current symptoms, your medications and their monitoring, your stability, and your goals. A first conversation can settle where to start and how to adjust from there. Reach out to our care team about the right format for this stage, and our patient and family resources describe what coordinated care involves.

Frequently Asked Questions

Is telepsychiatry as effective as in-person psychiatry?

For many conditions, yes. A 2023 meta-analysis of 32 randomized trials found no significant overall difference in symptom improvement, and telepsychiatry did best for depressive disorders. Results vary by condition, and evidence for schizophrenia and bipolar disorder specifically is limited.

Is telepsychiatry effective for schizophrenia?

The research is thin. A 2022 systematic review found no eligible randomized trials of telehealth psychotherapy for schizophrenia, while narrative reviews describe telehealth with psychosis as feasible and acceptable. Limited research is the accurate summary, not evidence of failure.

Can long-acting injectable antipsychotics be given by telehealth?

No. Injections are administered in person by a clinician, so people on long-acting injectables need in-person visits on their injection schedule, whatever else happens by video.

Do I need blood tests or physical checks with serious mental illness?

Often, yes, depending on the medication. Lithium requires blood level checks, clozapine calls for regular blood monitoring, and antipsychotics call for metabolic monitoring under their prescribing requirements, all of which involve a clinic or lab visit.

Can telepsychiatry handle a mental health crisis?

No. Video visits are not built for emergencies. In a crisis, call or text 988 or go to the nearest emergency room; a care team can take over treatment planning once the person is safe.

What is hybrid psychiatric care?

A deliberate mix of in-person and video visits, adjusted over time as stability and needs change. In-person time covers the parts of care that require presence, such as injections and labs, while routine check-ins can happen by video.

What if I am having thoughts of suicide?

Help is available right now, at any hour: call or text 988 for free, confidential support.

Citations

1. Hagi K, et al. "Telepsychiatry versus face-to-face treatment: systematic review and meta-analysis of randomised controlled trials." British Journal of Psychiatry, 2023;223(3):407-414. doi.org/10.1192/bjp.2023.86. Tier 1 (peer-reviewed meta-analysis).
2. Greenwood H, et al. "Telehealth versus face-to-face psychotherapy for less common mental health conditions: systematic review and meta-analysis." JMIR Mental Health, 2022;9(3):e31780. PMC8956990. Tier 1 (peer-reviewed systematic review).
3. 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. 988lifeline.org. Tier 2 (FAQ only).

Someone calls a friend "such an attention seeker," and everyone nods. Maybe it's a coworker who turns every meeting into a story about themselves, a partner who escalates every disagreement, or a teenager whose posts get more dramatic by the week. Or maybe you've wondered whether the label fits you.

Attention-seeking behavior is any behavior aimed, consciously or not, at getting other people to notice, respond, or reassure. Everyone does it sometimes. Wanting to be seen is a basic human need. It becomes a problem when it's persistent, when it disrupts relationships or work, or when it's the visible edge of something harder underneath: loneliness, a mood episode, a personality disorder, or a crisis.

What counts as attention-seeking behavior?

Common examples include:

• Exaggerating stories or symptoms to get a reaction
• Steering conversations back to yourself
• Dramatic emotional displays out of proportion to the situation
• Fishing for compliments or reassurance
• Provocative statements, posts, or clothing meant to stand out
• Starting conflict to get engagement, even negative engagement

None of these, on its own, says anything about mental health. Context matters more than any single behavior: how often it happens, how much it costs the person, and what's driving it.

Why do people seek attention?

There's rarely a single reason. Common drivers include:

• Loneliness and unmet needs for connection. When people feel unseen, any response can feel better than none.
• Low self-worth. External validation can stand in for an internal sense of being okay.
• Learned patterns. In some families, the only reliable way to get a response was to escalate. Habits learned early can carry into adulthood.
• Stress or crisis. Even people who rarely seek attention may reach for it during a breakup, a loss, or a period of instability.
• Social media. Likes and comments offer fast, measurable attention, which makes it easy to chase.

Sometimes, though, behavior that looks like attention-seeking is a symptom of a mental health condition, and treating it as a character flaw misses the point.

Is attention-seeking behavior a sign of a disorder?

Usually not. But persistent, intense attention-seeking can be part of several conditions.

"Attention-seeking disorder" isn't a real diagnosis

People often search for "attention seeking disorder." There's no condition by that name in the DSM-5. The diagnosis most closely tied to attention-seeking is histrionic personality disorder, and attention-seeking can also show up in borderline personality disorder, narcissistic personality disorder, and during manic episodes of bipolar disorder.

Histrionic personality disorder

Histrionic personality disorder (HPD) is defined by a long-standing pattern of excessive emotionality and attention-seeking. According to the MSD Manual, it affects about 2% of people in the U.S. Under DSM-5-TR criteria, a diagnosis requires at least five of the following, beginning by early adulthood:

• Discomfort when not the center of attention
• Inappropriately seductive or provocative interactions
• Rapidly shifting, shallow-seeming emotions
• Consistent use of physical appearance to draw attention
• Speech that is vague and lacking in detail
• Dramatic, theatrical, exaggerated emotional expression
• Being easily influenced by others or situations
• Seeing relationships as more intimate than they are

A StatPearls review on NCBI describes HPD as an enduring condition that typically begins in late adolescence or early adulthood. The key difference from ordinary attention-seeking is that the pattern is pervasive: it shows up across relationships and settings, for years, and causes real distress or impairment.

Borderline personality disorder

In borderline personality disorder (BPD), intense fear of abandonment, unstable relationships, and rapidly shifting moods can lead to behavior that others read as attention-seeking. Usually it's something closer to panic: an attempt to keep someone from leaving. BPD can also look the opposite way, turned inward. We've written about that in quiet BPD and about the outward-facing petulant type of BPD.

Bipolar disorder

During a manic episode, the NIMH describes symptoms such as feeling very up or elated, talking fast about many things, feeling unusually important, talented, or powerful, and an excessive appetite for pleasurable activities. To others, that can look like a bid for attention. It's actually a mood episode, and it needs treatment.

When "attention-seeking" is really a cry for help

Talk of suicide, self-harm, or hopelessness is sometimes dismissed as "just attention-seeking." That's dangerous. The NIMH's warning signs of suicide include talking about wanting to die, feeling like a burden, feeling hopeless or trapped, and withdrawing from friends. These are reasons to respond, not to roll your eyes.

Even if someone has said similar things before, take it seriously. Ask directly. Stay with them. If you or someone you know is in danger, call or text 988, the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, or call 911.

How attention-seeking affects relationships

Persistent attention-seeking tends to wear people down. Friends and partners can feel exhausted, manipulated, or stuck in cycles of crisis and reconciliation. Over time, people pull back, which deepens the loneliness that often drove the behavior in the first place.

That cycle is why labeling someone an "attention seeker" rarely helps. It names the behavior without touching the need underneath.

What helps

When attention-seeking is a habit rather than a symptom, change usually starts with noticing the need before acting on it. Is it reassurance, connection, recognition? Saying that need directly often gets a better response than dramatizing it.

When it's part of a mental health condition, treatment targets the condition:

• Personality disorders. Psychotherapy is the main treatment. The MSD Manual notes that for HPD, psychotherapy focusing on underlying conflicts may help. For BPD, a 2020 Cochrane review found that psychotherapy reduced symptom severity, with dialectical behavior therapy and mentalization-based treatment the most studied.
• Bipolar disorder. According to the NIMH, bipolar disorder usually requires lifelong treatment, typically medication combined with psychotherapy.

If you're on the other side of it, as a partner, parent, or friend, it helps to respond to the underlying need calmly and consistently, while setting clear limits on behavior you can't sustain. For more, see how to help someone with mental health issues.

When to look for more support

Consider a professional evaluation when attention-seeking is constant, damages relationships or work, comes with intense mood swings or fear of abandonment, or comes with any talk of self-harm.

At Amae Health, our clinics specialize in conditions including Borderline Personality Disorder and bipolar disorder. Our care teams bring psychiatrists, therapists, peer mentors, and care coordinators under one roof, working from one treatment plan, so the pattern behind the behavior gets looked at, not just the behavior itself.

Frequently asked questions

What is an attention seeker?

"Attention seeker" is an informal label for someone who often behaves in ways meant to draw notice or reactions from others. It isn't a diagnosis, and it often oversimplifies what's going on.

Is attention-seeking a mental illness?

No. Attention-seeking is a behavior, not a diagnosis. Persistent, pervasive attention-seeking can be part of histrionic personality disorder, and it can also appear in borderline personality disorder and during manic episodes of bipolar disorder.

What causes attention-seeking behavior in adults?

Common drivers include loneliness, low self-worth, patterns learned in childhood, stress or crisis, and the pull of social media. In some cases, it's a symptom of a mental health condition.

How do you respond to someone who is attention-seeking?

Respond to the need behind the behavior, such as reassurance or connection, without rewarding escalation. Set calm, consistent limits. And never dismiss talk of suicide or self-harm as attention-seeking.

Key takeaways

• Attention-seeking behavior is common and human. It becomes a concern when it's persistent and harmful.
• "Attention-seeking disorder" isn't a diagnosis. Histrionic personality disorder is the condition most closely tied to it, and it can also appear in BPD and bipolar disorder.
• Talk of suicide or self-harm should always be taken seriously, never written off as attention-seeking.
• The most useful response is to address the need underneath the behavior.

If attention-seeking is part of a bigger pattern of mood swings, unstable relationships, or self-harm, for you or someone you love, request an intake appointment. Our team will explain how an evaluation works and what to expect from the first visit.